Parents Universal Resource Experts - Sue Scheff - Teen Peer Pressure

Peer Pressure leads to “Good Teens Making Bad Choices” which is very common today.

Teen Peer Pressure can be extremely damaging to a pre-teen or teen that is desperately trying to fit in somewhere – anywhere in their school. They are not sure what group they belong in, and those that are suffering with low self esteem can end up fitting more comfortably with the less than desirable peers. This can be the beginning of a downward spiral. When a child doesn’t have confidence of who they are or where they belong, it can lead to the place that is easiest to fit in – usually the not the best crowd.

Keeping your child involved in activities such as sports, music and school clubs can help give them a place where they belong. We always encourage parents to find the one thing that truly interests their child, whether it is a musical instrument, swimming, golf, diving, dance, chess club, drama, etc. It is important to find out what their interests are and help them build on it. Encourage them 100%. They don’t need to be the next Tiger Woods, but they need to enjoy what they are doing and keep busy doing it. Staying busy in a constructive way is always beneficial.

It is very common with many parents that contact us that their child has fallen into the wrong crowd and has become a follower rather than a leader. They are making bad choices, choices they know better however the fear of not fitting in with their friends sways them to make the wrong decisions. Low self esteem can attribute to this behavior, and if it has escalated to a point of dangerous situations such as legal issues, substance use, gang related activity, etc. it may be time to seek outside help. Remember, don’t be ashamed of this, it is very common today and you are not alone. So many parents believe others will think it is a reflection of their parenting skills, however with today’s society; the teen peer pressure is stronger than it ever has been. The Internet explosion combined with many teens Entitlement Issues has made today’s generation a difficult one to understand.

It is so important to find the right fit for your child if you are seeking residential treatment. We always encourage *local adolescent counseling prior to any Residential Treatment Programs or Boarding schools, however this is not always necessary. Many parents have an instinct when their child is heading the wrong direction. It is an intuition only a parent can detect. If something doesn’t seem right, it usually isn’t. If your gut is talking to you, you may want to listen or investigate what your child is doing. Parents need to understand that teen peer pressure can influence adolescents in negative ways. Do you know who your child’s friends are?

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Teens Say School Pressure Is Main Reason For Drug Use

Source: digtriad.com, Triad, NC

New York — A new study reveals a troubling new insight into the reasons why teens use drugs.The study conducted by the Partnership for a Drug-free America shows that of 6,511 teens, 73% report that school stress and pressure is the main reason for drug use.

Ironically, only 7% of parents believe that teens use drugs to cope with stress.


Second on the list was to “feel cool” (73%), which was previously ranked in the first position. Another popular reason teens said they use drugs was to “feel better about themselves”(65%).Over the past decade, studies have indicated a steady changing trend in what teens perceive as the motivations for using drugs. The “to have fun” rationales are declining, while motivations to use drugs to solve problems are increasing.

On the positive side, the study confirms that overall abuse remains in a steady decline among teens. Marijuana, ecstasy, inhalants, methamphetamine alcohol and cigarette usage continue to decrease.

Additional findings show:

- 1 in 5 teens has abused a prescription medication- Nearly 1 in 5 teens has already abused a prescription painkiller- 41% of teens think it’s safer to abuse a precription drug than it is to use illegal drugs.

Teens continue to take their lives into their own hands when they intentionally abuse prescribed medications, said Pasierb. “Whether it’s to get high or deal with stress, or if they mistakenly believe it will help them perform better in school or sports, teens don’t realize that when used without a prescription, these medicines can be every bit as harmful as illegal street drugs.”

New Study Reveals that 61% of Teens Worry about Physical Appearance

By Johanna Curtis

Ever wonder how teens see themselves? If you have acne or are a parent of a teen with acne you've probably wondered how an average teen feels about him/herself. We all want a good self-image but acne can make achieving that doubly hard. How does a teen with acne fare relative to a teen with clear skin when it comes to self-image?

Teens in general worry about their looks, compare their physical appearance to friends and feel that physical appearance is important in gaining respect from others. So says a study conducted by OTX- a global consumer research and consulting firm that conducts its research on the Internet. This would be true for a teen who suffers with acne or one that has been lucky enough to escape it.

The "Teen Topix" study was conducted by OTX and the Intelligence Group and surveyed 750 teens aged between 13 and 17 across the country. The questions were centered on the topic of self-image. Questions included how they felt about their physical appearance, how happy they were in certain areas of their lives, what positive influences they had in their lives and what they spent money on to feel better.

By far the most interesting finding of the study was that the majority of teens rated themselves as "somewhat happy" (81%) while more than a third (36%) rated themselves as "very happy". This is indeed a positive finding! Teens are happiest about their friends, talents, special skills, and school performance. Interestingly teens felt happier with how they looked online (e.g. on their My Space profile) (78%) than how they thought they look in real life (68%) suggesting that they felt their online persona to be rather divided from their real life one.

When it came to how the average teen felt about their looks 61% said they felt worried about how they looked and as many as 48% said they compare themselves to their friends. As many as half of the teens surveyed felt that physical appearance influenced the respect they got from others but fewer teens felt that their looks influenced whether other people liked them (33%). Even fewer felt that that looks mattered when it came to a successful career and making money.

But what does the average teen find inspiring or positive? Teens rated girlfriends/boyfriends, religion, parents, teachers, and television shows as positive influences. The majority of teens listed their significant others or their religion as being of great positive support in their lives.

If 61% of teens are concerned with their physical appearance; how do boys and girls with acne breakouts fare in the self-esteem stakes? A study conducted by Harris Interactive for the American Counseling Association (ACA) a few years ago revealed that teenage acne significantly impacted on the self esteem of young adults. Teen acne caused extreme anxiety in most boys and girls and caused their self-image and confidence to be lower than their peers.

"Acne is often a source of anxiety that can impact a teen's self-image and confidence at a critical time in their development," said Dr. Mark Pope, President of the American Counseling Association. "It can affect various aspects of their life such as relationships, schoolwork, and even employment. As counselors, we encourage parents to talk openly with their children about all aspects of growing up".

So there you have it! Acne breakouts in teens can make it harder to survive the social jungle and teens with acne find it harder to cultivate a positive self-image than the average teen. The best way to deal with your self-image is to find sensible teenage acne solutions that work to clear your acne and keep it at bay. Healthy skin can help improve your self-image and means you can continue to grow into adulthood without physical and emotional scars.